Christmas a time of joy?

A time of joy when families get together to share memories or enjoy infants who play more with the wrapping paper and boxes than they do with the presents themselves.

And yet this is not the reality for many. I know and have known a lot of people for whom Christmas is an incredibly difficult time. Most of those I have known who find this have it made worse by their absolute conviction that everyone else they know is having a wonderful time with their own families! This was especially true when I worked at an adolescent mental health in-patient unit. The young adults there had little hesitation in expressing this and yet never questioned why some staff always volunteered to work long days on Christmas day!

Of course the majority of adults remain silent and don’t tell anyone if they find Christmas a really difficult time! This brings me to my first recommendation which is to be open about it if you fall into this category. My guess is that before you have told ten people, you will have found someone else who also finds Christmas difficult.

Next, if you can not spend time with someone who makes it more bearable, find something you can do to treat yourself. That may be a Christmas Massage, or it may be making sure you have a really nice meal, be that the traditional turkey or just something you specifically enjoy however bonkers other people might think it!

And, use some essential oils to lift your mood. Bergamot, Juniper, Frankincense, Myrrh (afraid there isn’t an essential oil of gold) Nutmeg, Cinnamon or other spicy oils and Orange all come to mind but if you have a favourite that is different use that instead. And remember, Christmas day is the first day that the ancient peoples in the Northern hemisphere would have been able to see that the light was returning and the days getting longer again. I am not sure that I notice it but our chickens do and always start laying more eggs after their December strike!

2 responses to “Christmas a time of joy?

  1. Totally agree. I quite enjoy Christmas, but I know so many who struggle with it, many of them buying into the myth that they are the only ones not enjoying it. I would urge anyone who falls into that category to say so and to think about what they can do as an alternative to feeling angry with those who are unable/unwilling to meet their needs.


  2. All the hype leading up to Christmas makes me really cross. Years ago we decided we wanted no part of it and have progressively shed all the trappings, choosing instead to have a lovely winter break at home. People often tell me how much they would like to do what we do and reject the idea of presents and family obligations, but then feel they can’t do it. I really think that if we were all a bit more honest with each other about what we’d really like to do everyone would be much happier. Also we need to break away from the commercialism – just because the big companies tell us we have to buy stuff to make ourselves happy does not mean it’s true.

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